Your Life Rites Team

For authentic end-of-life, funeral and bereavement care

End-of-life practices, rites and ceremonies help individuals, couples and families move through times of significant change. The Life Rites team have the experience and skill to ensure the choices you make will lay the best foundation for honouring your person and supporting healthy grieving.

Each team member contributes deeply informed experience to the Life Rites philosophy of holistic end-of-life care.

Life Rites is committed to ongoing cultural change and refinement of our death rites. Building collaborative and educational relationships across the healthcare, the funeral industry, the cultural, creative and community sectors. See some of our work here:

Victoria Spence

Founder and director of Life Rites

Victoria is a holistic funeral director, celebrant, end-of-life doula, counsellor and pioneer of Life Rites’ model of integrated end-of-life and after-death care.

With a Bachelor of Arts in Theatre and Philosophy, and two decades in the cultural industries, a Masters in Death, Dying and Palliative Care and training in mind-body somatic modalities, Victoria brings 35 years of unique experience to her work in the creation of Life Rites. and the holistic, hands on and potent re-creation of our death and funeral rites.

Alongside her work in Rites of Passage, she was one of the team that created Picnic Among Friends, a decade long, yearly community memorial event that invited people to bring their own creativity to how they live with love and loss. She co-created the Sydney Festival of Death and Dying ( 2015-17) with Dr Peter Banki, The Dusk Ceremonies at the Elephant House with Rookwood Necropolis.

Read more about Victoria and her work:

Sydney Morning Herald

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Aunty Rhonda Dixon Grovenor

As a much loved and respected member of her communities, Aunty Rhonda works tirelessly for human rights and social justice. She is a disability advocate and leading force in climate justice, as well as a daughter, mother, grandmother, mentor, elder and friend to many. Aunty Rhonda works diligently to heal Mother Earth and redress power and wealth inequities across society, and is currently completing her Masters at UTS in decolonising methodologies and how to respectfully engage with traditional custodians.
Aunty Rhonda works in healing ceremony at Life Rites, The Dusk Ceremonies at The Elephant House at Rookwood Cemetery and Picnic Among Friends.

Sarah Barry

Sarah Barry laid the foundation for her end of life work by volunteering at Sacred Heart Hospice from 2005 - 2009, where, for one day each week, she companioned the dying.
She has a longstanding Vipassana meditation practice and training in Nonviolent Communication (NVC). She graduated from CoFA with a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Printmedia in 1999, and a Master of Arts in Photomedia in 2001.
Working in her own business since 2002, as a professional consultant, has strengthened Sarah’s capacity for deep listening, staying grounded and practical in all situations.
Sarah began her Doula training through Preparing the Way in September 2020 and started her work with Life Rites shortly after. She began by working in our onsite mortuary, where, alongside our team, she consolidated the Life Rites model of after death body care. Care that every single person who comes to Life Rites receives.
As a mortality doula Sarah can sit calmly and intuitively with big emotions, complexity and deep conversations. She has a skill for bringing laughter into the mix, when appropriate.
As a holistic funeral director, Sarah is knowledgeable, clear, and organised, and will make sure the process runs as smoothly as possible.
As a celebrant, Sarah listens carefully to your stories of your person, and asks questions that allow her to deliver a ceremony that authentically represents their life and personality.
As part of the LGBTQ+ community, Sarah understands the importance of chosen family, and is particularly attuned to the fears and concerns that can arise as end of life approaches.

Kim Somerville

Kim is an End of Life Doula, Holistic Funeral Director and leads our Home Vigils. A former Palliative Care nurse of 25 years, she has also worked in Aged Care and Community Nursing, along with being a support carer, nanny and medical receptionist. Her training, experience and calm, gentle manner allow Kim to tenderly support the ageing process or those living with a terminal illness and continue through to end of life and the dying journey.
Kim believes in delivering optimal support for the individual, their family and loved ones, ensuring that people are given all the information and resources they need to make their own informed decisions. Drawing on her extensive experience Kim is able to confidently guide those wishing to die at home. She can facilitate difficult conversations around end of life, death and funeral care and is very comfortable being present with families and friends as they farewell and tend to their loved one. Her doula care has also expanded into the area of supporting parents and families with the heartbreaking loss of a child. This includes pre-term/ stillborn babies, infants and older children.
Kim loves sharing her passion and commitment through frequent involvement in community education sessions, Dying To Know Day events, Death Cafes, hospital in-services and in-house training with her wonderful Life Rites colleagues.

Sonja Godfrey-Chan

Sonja is an end-of-life doula, holistic funeral director, celebrant, meditation teacher and NSW Justice of the Peace. From a long career in federal government with an Honours degree in Industrial Relations and Asian Economic History, a Masters in Labour Law, and many years working in the equity and diversity space, Sonja experienced a profound life shift when her mother passed in 2000 and this led to her renewed journey along the Dhamma, dying and death pathway. With over 30 years of Buddhist practice including specific dying and death training from her teacher Reverend Mahinda, Sonja brings calm, peace and practicality to the end-of-life experience for both the individual and their family. Doula-led care enables people to navigate their end-of-life path without fear and worry and this is Sonja’s ultimate aspiration. She is also passionate about ensuring that any beloved furry friends are not forgotten and plans put in place so they can continue to be cared for and loved.
Sonja is a trained Biography Writer and can assist you to gather all the intricacies of family history including the tall tales and truths, photos and recipes, music and video images. Sonja is currently training to be a Dementia Doula to support people diagnosed with dementia and to help their families traverse the challenges ahead. Sonja is also undertaking a Masters of Counselling in grief and bereavement.

Skye Robertson

Skye’s background spans practice managing in the mental health space, a wealth of planning and attention to detail through event management and twelve years with a ceremony focus celebrating threshold moments, unions, endings and new beginnings. And then the death of someone close to her came four times in four years and changed her forever.
Walking into that fragile place where the freedoms of an independent body and mind slipped away was heart-breaking, and also a privilege. Saying goodbye and honouring life in all its joy and sadness set her on a new path. Skye is now a holistic funeral director, celebrant and a ceremony facilitator - and she also manages operations at Life Rites.
She believes that a good ceremony is one that is right for you. May it be healing, uplifting, joyous, reverent and tender to the deep sadness of what you have lost and what you have found. May it be a ceremony with heart.

Vicki Melson

Vicki is a mortality doula, funeral assistant and after death carer.
Vicki comes from a background of deep body care having worked as a remedial masseuse and aromatherapist for over 30 years. The transition of body care from the living to the dead comes very naturally to Vicki. She works intuitively and with deep respect, empathy, and kindness for all humans. Vicki is very good at sitting in a space of discomfort. Her communication skills are strong, and she is practical and non judgemental.
As a person with lived cancer experience, Vicki has a deep passion for equipping yourself with knowledge, advocating for your rights, and finding that nugget of gold in the darkest of places.
Vicki completed her doula training with “Preparing the Way” in 2022. In 2008 she completed an Arts degree in English and Film at Sydney University. She completed her Aromatherapy Diploma at Australasian College of Natural Therapies in 1994. Prior to that she lived in the United Kingdom, worked as a Graphic Designer, and studied Typography at London College of Printing.
She is very happy to be an Australian citizen and lives on Gadigal land.

Pat Joyce

For me, joining Life Rites was a natural progression following my roles in nursing, aged care advocacy, and as a trained art therapist. I am privileged to have listened to people’s amazing life stories, whether an ordinary or extraordinary life, and to be there with them to witness major life events and to see their courage in making decisions which affect them.
I am very comfortable sharing experiences of grief, forgiveness, change, celebration of life, and I am passionate about having conversations around preparing for death.
To make a time for an information session, including in aged care settings, do contact us to make a booking.

Vaike Neeme-Samson

Vaike’s training and experience have spanned theatre production, publicity and producing, accounts and administration for many social and artistic initiatives, Steiner education and aged care. The threshold of death and its effect on earthly life has always been her core interest, backed with a committed inner practice, and so supporting the work of Life Rites is now a beautiful fit. Vaike is currently studying a Bachelor of Social Work.

Jude Neeme-Samson

Over the past 30 years Jude has taught, practiced and trained in ceremony in diverse cultural settings ranging from classic religious communities to Indigenous, shamanic, druidic and multicultural contexts. Jude brings with him both deep listening and illuminating questions to guide you towards finding what is best suited to your situation.
They help craft ceremony that will work best for you and those in your life. Their wealth of experience provides a creative foundation for your journey with Life Rites.

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Cally Bruer

Cally specialises in craniosacral therapy, reflexology and massage, and is able to provide deep physical and emotional care to all people involved in an end-of-life and/or after-death grieving process. Her work with Life Rites’ families is often ongoing; long-term, therapeutic relationships are formed and maintained. A deep listener with a calm presence, Cally is able to meet you wherever you are at. She’s also a trained birth and postpartum doula so is able to bring profound and focused care to stillbirth infants and their families.